Sneak Peak: Sex after a breakup (draft, no edits)

Breakups are hard. We all go through them, some handle them better than others. Some don’t handle breakups at all and then some, do what I did. Instead of looking down at myself for the relationships I’ve had, I’ve decided to learn from them. Don't think for a second all my learning was wise, fuck I’ve been a fool more times than I can remember. Everyone goes through the stages of grief, although it’s pretty unspoken, there are a few universal stages we all go through.

So, let’s discuss sex. I mean sex is sex, but after a long term relationship, sex seems to fall into a new category. I went from having comfortable relationship sex to nothing within the blink of an eye. When yeh are dating someone for a long period of time, you don’t think twice about sex, you know that it’s accessible at any point of time. After 4 months of mourning my relationship I finally started to feel like myself again. To be honest, I’m feeling more like myself than ever before. I’ve discovered a whole new me, a sexual me, a me that loves wild sex, sex so good that it makes you tingle all over just thinking about it. Luckily for me and I guess luckily for you, I’ve found it. I found something I didn’t know I was looking for.

Let me start at the beginning for you. It was 4 months after my breakup and I was still stuck in the same way of thinking. You know how it is, one minute you feel okay and the next, you wonder if the breakup was the right decision. After moving cities, I met with a group of old friends and they kept saying, “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else”. I of course thought they were idiots. But to be honest, they weren’t. The moment I slept with someone else, I was able to detach myself just a little bit more from my ex. For me, it was less about the getting over someone and more about finding a new side of me. A side that loved nothing more than to just feel everything, explore everything and enjoy everything.